Clarify what the actual conflict is
Stick to the issue at hand
Maintain as much tender physical contact as possible
Avoid sarcasm
Avoid "you" statements
Don’t use "hysterical" statements or exaggerations
Resolve any hurt feelings before continuing the conflict discussion
Don’t resort to name calling
Avoid power statements and actions
Don’t use the silent treatment
Keep your arguments as private as possible
Use the "drive-through" method of communication
Resolve your conflicts with win-win solutions
Strive to reflect honor in all your words and actions

Excerpted from "Making Love Last Forever" by Gary Smalley.